What Were You Born To Do? (And Other Intimidating Questions)

One of my favorite questions to ask my clients is, “What were you born to do?”

Much more often than not, the response is an un-confident, mumbled statement that instantly reveals confusion and/or insecurities. I ask this question, not to make others uncomfortable, but to get to a tender spot right off the bat so we can identify areas that need a jump start, by looking at the big picture.

So, let me ask you – What were you born to do?

  • Do you have a vague recollection of your unique talents, skills, and abilities?
  • Do you believe that your life has a special purpose that only you can fulfill?
  • Do you ever feel that your life is a mystery that you haven’t yet solved?
  • Do you feel compelled to do something grand and meaningful with your life?
  • How will you know when you’ve discovered what that is?
  • Are you compelled to make a difference? To live up to your potential?
  • What are you doing about it?

These questions aren’t simple or easy for most people to answer. In fact, my experience has shown me that when we start talking about a person’s purpose in life, anxiety reveals its ugly head.

  • Are you afraid you’ll pick the wrong path? That somehow you’ll miss your calling?
  • Do you feel pressure to figure it out because, according to your inner critic, “you should have figured it out by now”?
Could you use some guidance to assist you in solving the mystery of your own life’s purpose?

If the answer is yes, you are in the perfect spot at the perfect time… because guidance and insight is exactly what you’re going to receive today!

To find your answers to questions like, “What were you born to do?”, YOU are the only person who can definitively recognize and step into that role. I know, I know – it would be much easier if you could just go see someone, have them read your fortune, and tell you that your life path is to [insert some great advice].

HOWEVER, if you, yourself, do not do the soul searching that is required, then you will not recognize the wealth of potential that exists within you. You will be relying on what other people have said to you. You will be giving your power away and you may have set yourself up for a constant stream of doubt to be playing on your inner soundtrack:

“So-and-so told me that I should be doing this… but what if he/she is wrong?”

Notice how it feels to say, “I am amazing” vs. “That other person says I’m amazing”. We are seeking the power inherent in the first statement.

That being said, in your own quest to find the answers to your questions, I do recommend seeking out trustworthy counselors, friends, and guides who will offer you unbiased, objective insight with your best and highest good as their sole motivation. Please don’t rely on other people’s assessment of your own life, rather, use the information to put together your own stash of evidence – the proof that you need to convince yourself that you are, indeed, amazing.

‘This Is What I Was Born To Do’ Evidence Box

Gather all the information you’ve ever heard, read, felt, or imagined about who you are, why you are here, and what you were born to do.

Compile it in a journal, a shoe box, a binder – something that works for you.

Your goal with this step is to create a tangible source that you can refer back to during times of self doubt and insecurity, to remind you that you are on the right track. You’ll begin to see patterns emerge, information and clues will repeat themselves, and you will undoubtedly start to recognize your personal potential.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What did you want to be when you grew up?
  • What have other people (whom you trust) consistently remarked about you? Do you light up a room, make people laugh, bring comfort? Do solutions to problems come easy to you?
  • What makes your heart sing? What do you get lost in – an activity or pursuit that puts you in a time warp – you find yourself excited and compelled to do more, learn more or you have an insatiable thirst for more?
  • If all of your worldly needs were met, and you had no financial concerns, whatsoever – what would you do with your time? What desires come bubbling up for you?
  • How would you make a difference in your family, your community, throughout the world?

Look at your Soul Map

When you were born, the energy in the cosmos was aligned in an intricate pattern that is recorded within you. As you grow and experience life, this energy continues to support you to reach your highest potential in life. You were born with inherent strengths and weaknesses, and in the course of overcoming these weaknesses and embracing your strengths, your life will align with your mission here on earth.

This information is encoded in your natal chart, and whether you have experience with Astrology or not, I highly recommend an in-depth and intuitive look at your Soul Map to assist you in finding important clues to what you were born to do.


Meditate. Listen. Absorb. Trust.

When you find yourself wrestling with your inner critic over whether your hunches about your own potential are true or not, remember it is your ego trying to convince you to play small.

What does it look like when you find the answer?

A sense of confidence, renewed enthusiasm for life, commitment to make a difference.

I’ve taken these steps, dedicated several years to uncovering my own mystery. And this is my answer to the question:

I was born to write. Born to share a message from as many platforms as I can reach, as loudly as I can. My message is one of authenticity and learning to trust the self. I am here to help others recognize their own Divinity, to stop giving away their power.

What do you think? Am I doing it?

Challenge: Ponder what you feel you were born to do. Consider your life’s purpose and what you might need to do in order to align with that path. Embrace your unique amazingness.


  1. Answer each of the questions – you may want to start a journal or a blog to reflect on your journey.
  2. Share your thoughts with us! (Leave a comment, make a post in the Facebook Group, or even shout out on Twitter!)
  3. Create your Evidence Box – gather up the proof you need to remind yourself of your potential.

I look forward to hearing your answers to this week’s discussion questions on the topic of life’s purpose. 

With mucho a latte of love and respect,

Janet Louise Stephenson signature
Your Transformation Tour Guide 

Subscribe to our mailing list

* indicates required Email Address * First Name *
Follow Janet Louise Stephenson:

Transformation Tour Guide | Authenticity Advocate | LadyWizard

9 Responses

  1. Sinnary Sam
    | Reply

    Something wonderful to ponder. Again, another very insightful and intellectual post.  Thanks Janet.

  2. mithuhassan
    | Reply

    Great article !! Thanks to share !!!!

  3. Deone Higgs
    | Reply

    Another Rich and Insightful post here, Janet! 
    I can so relate to you and your message. I want to share a bit of my story with you. I can’t share it all, because I’m currently working on the book that will tell it in its entirety. 
    For the longest time, all my life really until about two years ago; I identified myself by the experience that gave me life. My mother at nineteen had an extramarital affair with her then oldest sister’s husband, and I was the result of their affair. Unfortunately, I was the only one in my entire family who didn’t know my story. While I’m not sure of all the details and was never told exactly how the relationship came about; I allowed myself to identify with the experience. I would carry the identity of being “an accident” or mistake, that never should’ve happened. On top of that, I didn’t know who my father was until I was sixteen years old, and even then he denied me. Telling anyone who inquired that I was his nephew. He even told this to his new wife and my two younger half brothers. It was devastating and caused me to see myself in very negative light.
    My maternal grandmother who showed me the love I truly needed from my parents, was the love of my life. She’s the I am who I am today. She would often tell me that my life had purpose for being, and that God was going to use me one day. I just wasn’t able to see it back then. That’s not all the story, but it’s enough to share with you why I believe what I am doing right now is what I was born to do. I’ve had to face insurmountable hardships that I now know were very much a part of my purpose in life. I don’t believe anything that has ever happened to me to be coincidental. In fact, it all has shaped me in such way that I really don’t know how I am still able to cling to the optimistic outlook I pride myself for having. I use my experiences to let others with similar stories know that yes, we each have a purpose, a preordained reason for being here, being who we are, and having to endure what we might have to endure in this life. It has take me a longtime to get to the place of peace that I have today. And as my purpose continues to unfold itself to me, I am grateful the Infinite has aligned my path with men and women like you, who are on this onward journey with me.
    I really appreciate the work you’re doing here, my friend. May you continue to be bless with wisdom, compassion, love, and all those the things you will need to carry your message to those who are most in need of reading it. Thank you so much for this inspiring post. I truly enjoyed reading it. Cheers.  🙂

    • JanetLouise8
      | Reply

      @Deone Higgs ,
      Thank you for sharing your inspiring story! You’ve been through so much – I am honored to be connected with you and help spread your message as well. #high5s

  4. Hrvoje Butkovic
    | Reply

    That’s a lot of information crammed into a short post! 🙂

    If you don’t mind, I would like to expand on your post from my own experience. What has particularly caught my attention was the “Meditate. Listen. Absorb. Trust.” title. There is a tendency in our society to think our way to answers. I have come across a number of sources that advocate listing one’s skills and talents, establishing one’s personality profile (Myers-Briggs or similar), identifying activities of interest, and so on, as a way to discover one’s life purpose. Thinking is obviously important as a way to organise and make sense of all this information. However, there are two areas where it falls short, and where alternative approaches need to be used.

    The first one has to do with the source of information from which to uncover one’s life calling. Talents, interests, etc are a part of it. The remainder comes from seemingly mundane events – a chance utterance by a friend that catches our attention, an idea expressed in a movie or a novel that takes on undue significance, innocent behaviour of a child or a pet that triggers an unexpected association, a cryptic message in a dream or a vision, and so on. We cannot force this information to come to us. To be able to receive it and notice its synchronicities, we have to be in a receptive state of mind for much of the time – in nature, in the dark, in silence. Hence the need to meditate, listen, absorb and trust.

    The second one is about the interpretation itself. Even if we solve the riddle of our life purpose by analysing the above information, we won’t know that we’ve solved it by relying on thinking alone. It is not like a mathematical problem where we can verify the answer by looking at the numbers themselves, or by asking someone else to confirm it for us. The way to recognise the answer is by the emotions that it stirs in us. It is not a thoughtful “Yes, that makes sense”, but a tearful “Yes! I can dedicate my life to this”.

    Another reason that we have to learn to meditate, listen, absorb and trust is that the answer that we find is not likely to be static. Once we start living the purpose that we have found, we are likely to uncover additional pieces of the puzzle that we lack, and discover flaws – inaccuracies – in the interpretation of the ones that we already have. Gaining increased self-knowledge is essential to the process of focusing and clarifying one’s life purpose. Even information that we may obtain through mediumship or hypnosis (both of which I have found tremendously helpful) doesn’t stand on its own, but merely points to what we need to explore deeply within ourselves.

    I warmly recommend reading Bill Plotkin’s books on the subject: Soulcraft, which explores the nature-based approach to discovering one’s life purpose, and Nature and the Human Soul, which places it in the wider context of living one’s life.

    • Janet Louise Stephenson
      | Reply

      I appreciate you adding your insight to this discussion, Hrvoje. In fact, I’m thinking about turning this comment into its own blog post. Brilliant!

  5. […] that time when I asked, “What were you born to do?” There were quite a few intimidating questions in that post, as well. It’s one of my […]

  6. […] Find your passion. When you feel driven to take action, you will find your strength. […]

  7. Doe Eyes
    | Reply

    At first I really didn’t know, and I was envious of people who did. Those people who just knew the moment they were born. After I gave it a lot of thought and matured a little. It was a clown. The clown was there staring me in the face for all those years. Looking back at me with that grease paint covered face. I hid my clowny ambitions because of ridicule. I want to be a clown who helps people with laughter, and their self esteem. I want to be a storytelling clown who draws pictures. I want to write and draw too clown or no clown.

Leave a Reply