Perhaps you are familiar with the term self-centered as a synonym for arrogant, egotistical, and narcissistic individuals. When used in this context, the word implies that a person assumes the rest of existence revolves around him/her, with little regard for other people.
I ask that you discard your previous definition of what it means to be self-centered, because we are going to use this particular term in a dramatically different way. In fact, I encourage you to aspire to be MORE Self-Centered!
We have previously discussed playing small and dimming our own lights, as well as how to embrace our own amazing-ness. When we feel less than or better than, we are not centered within our truly divine selves – rather, we are in a state of comparison and competition – and when we operate from either of these attitudes, nobody wins.
Self-Centered indicates that you are monitoring your own tendencies to play the top dog, or the underdog and are continually adjusting your own attitudes and behaviors to maintain a confident and peaceful balance within your self. The skill to center the self can be developed.
Using the lists below, see if you recognize your own tendencies and whether you operate from a Top Dog (Superiority) mentality, or from an Underdog (Inferiority) mentality:
Top Dog Tendencies:
Feelings of Rejection
Lack of Confidence
Are you able to recognize areas where you project “less than” or “better than” to those around you?
Is it possible that when you aren’t comparing yourself to others, your experience changes? How so?
And what does it look like when you are Centered in the Self?
Getting Back to Center
When you catch yourself feeling like a Top Dog or an Underdog, take a moment to breathe deeply. Close your eyes, and remember that you are a Spark of Divinity inhabiting this physical body. Breathe into that knowing, and then choose to recognize everyone else in this same manner. Being Self-Centered is an active choice which realigns you with the truth of your existence.
Challenge: Ponder areas in your life where you operate from a ‘better than’ or ‘less than’ perspective. Contemplate what YOUR center looks and feels like, so that you can breathe back into that space when you catch yourself feeling above or below others.
- Answer each of the questions – you may want to start a journal or a blog to reflect on your journey.
- Share your thoughts with us! (Leave a comment, make a post in the Facebook Group, or even shout out on Twitter!)
- Practice re-aligning with your center when you catch yourself feeling superior and/or inferior.
With mucho a latte of love and respect,