Revisiting Your Personal Values and Core Beliefs

Personal Values & Core Beliefs are so cliché.

If you ask me, this topic has been beat to death, leaving most of us with a bland taste in our mouth, eliciting an autopilot nod as a voice in our head says, “blah blah blah blah, I already know what my personal values and core beliefs are = B-O-R-I-N-G.”

In fact, if you are still reading this, I applaud you – and I’ll do my best to make it worth your while.

For Transformation Tuesday, my goal is always to push your buttons just a bit, to make you think. As you dig around beneath the surface, asking uncomfortable questions and addressing buried topics, your mindset begins to transform. This week is no exception.

Where did your personal values and core beliefs originate?

Personal Values on a compassMany of us were indoctrinated with a specific system of programs from which we operate in daily life. This ‘programming’ may have occurred in childhood, and may revolve around politics or religion. I honor those of you who have paused to ponder your personal values, exclusive of any prior programming, especially if you have also clearly identified your individual guiding compass, based on your deepest core beliefs.

I honor this effort because it is somewhat rare. As Mask Wearers, most have not taken the time to delve too deeply into our own individuality. Exploring and revealing the “real” you takes courage, and that’s why we’re doing it together. Question for you:

What are the guiding principles in your life?

If you quickly rattled off a Sunday School version for your answer, I beg you to dig just a little bit deeper.

Revisiting Your Personal Values and Core Beliefs

This exercise will help you identify a layer of “you” that may not surface without a bit of prodding. No matter how much ‘work’ you’ve done, it is always valuable to revisit your personal values and core beliefs.

If you feel uncomfortable or threatened in any way, please accept my apologies in advance, and know that your willingness to revisit this topic is directly proportionate to your desire to take off the mask(s) that you wear.

  • Where did your belief system come from?
  • Was it passed down to you from your parents?
  • Have you ever taken the time to personally deliberate on the most meaningful virtues you choose to embody in your life?
  • Do you assume that your personal values and core beliefs are the same as a political viewpoint or membership in a specific church?
  • Have you accepted the values and beliefs of an organized system without pausing to consider how your own moral compass guides you, without the influence of ….. ?

Perhaps your personal values and core beliefs DO include political perspectives, as well as your preferred doctrine. Let’s experiment for a moment.

  1. Take a giant step back from the labels you might currently identify yourself with.
  2. Forget being a Christian, or a Democrat, or a Feminist (or any other similar label).
  3. Deep down within your own soul, what are your guiding tenets?
  4. What are the directions on your own personal compass?
  5. What virtues are the most important for YOU to embody in your life?
To give you an example, here are just a few phrases that I have included on my own guiding statement, which expresses my personal values and core beliefs:

 

I am committed to being the most authentic version of me, to empowering others to remember who they really are, and to being present with my children.

These phrases are very important to me, and as I continually revisit my answers to the questions posed today, my guidance system is refined. I hope you have a similar experience.

Challenge: Ponder your personal values and core beliefs at a deeper level than is typical for you. Consider what virtues are highest on your priority list, and how you incorporate them into your daily life. Contemplate whether your actions are aligned with your values and beliefs.

 

Homework: 

  1. Answer each of the questions – you may want to start a journal or a blog to reflect on your journey.
  2. Share your thoughts with us! (Leave a comment, make a post in the Facebook Group, or even shout out on Twitter!)
  3. Write out a Guiding Statement (similar to a mission statement) that describes and defines your personal values and core beliefs.

Extra Credit / Creative Expression:

-  Create a visual representation of your Guiding Statement. Share with us via social media and use hashtags #transformationtuesday or #butterflymaiden.

I look forward to hearing your answers to this week’s discussion questions. 

With mucho a latte of love and respect,

Janet Louise Stephenson signature
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3 Responses

  1. Madelyn Griffith-Haynie
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    I clicked to read this article because the content summary appeared “incongruent” with the rest of the content I’ve explored here. I’m relieved (tho’ not totally surprised) to discover that you are encouraging a DEEPER cut, not disparaging the idea of values-based navigation, and that we are similarly aligned on the importance after all!

    The aha! for me is the realization that I am SO long familiar with the needs-values-boundaries-standards-tolerations-incompletions-vision-mission-purpose conversation that I have skipped over the reality, somehow, that it is either BRAND new to others, or seemingly tired beyond relevency, possibly because of the way it has been presented or misrepresented. Duh!

    As Robert Johnson reminded me in his “autobiography,” Balancing Heaven and Earth (among many other mind-expanders I received from this much-loved book) — you can’t teach an old man’s lesson to young men (at least, not very effectively!)

    Thanks for yet another reminder to remain consciously atuned to the process of acquiring the lessons along my personal pathway — many hard-won, but now integrated in a fashion that doesn’t ALWAYS serve. I plan to use this post as a nudge to check out any OTHER areas I might *also* be taking growth for granted (a perfect post-Thanksgiving exploration, yes?)

    xx,
    mgh — Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, SCAC, MCC
    - ADD Coaching Field co-founder -
    (blogs: ADDandSoMuchMore and ADDerWorld – dot com!)
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

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