Will the Real Me Please Stand Up?
The subject of authenticity has been heavy on my mind in recent months as I’ve spear-headed the Butterfly Maiden Project to help others discover their version of the real me. The questions “Do you even know how you Hide the REAL You?” sparked an enlightening discussion, and continues to provoke soul searching.
As your Transformation Tour Guide, I want to share what I have learned as I’ve been exploring and revealing the real me. The tidbits below are all taken from journal entries that I have written somewhere along my own journey of transformation.
Perhaps the Real Me Isn’t Always on Display
What strikes me as the most obvious reason why others don’t see the real me – I just might not be sharing the whole shebang. It’s not always easy to put yourself out there, in all my weaknesses and glories. As a Mask Wearer, I have been in the habit of hiding big chunks of who I really am from the rest of the world out of fear that I wouldn’t be accepted, liked, or appreciated.
When I choose to hide myself, out of fear that YOU might judge me, what I am really doing is pre-judging myself before you ever get the chance. So the fact that you can’t see the real me is my fault, it’s my insecurity rearing its ugly head.
Which one is the Real Me?
I’m pretty good at adapting to any situation that I find myself in. I sense what other people expect of me and I, habitually, adjust my attitudes and behavior to make them feel more comfortable. These are leftover habits from my People Pleasing days, and I’m steadily working to let them go.
What is disconcerting about this chameleon-like behavior, is that the person (or people) I am currently with, do not have the opportunity to experience me in my full authenticity, and therefore, never get the chance to know me at a deeper level. Each person knows a different version of “Janet”. I often wonder if these versions are simply snapshots of me at that moment in time, or if they, collectively, could merge to create my WHOLE self. I don’t believe the slivers by themselves are accurate representations of who I really am. And maybe I question whether it’s even possible to get to know me for all my personal complexities and eccentricities.
I aspire to living my life so that there is no question whether or not you know the real me.
The Real Me Revealed
Every week, on Transformation Tuesday, I send an email out with questions that help you to explore who you really are. There’s a blurb from me, with questions, and a few homework assignments. It’s fun, it’s free, and if you really want to start moving toward a more authentic life, it can be deeply transformative.
Exploring and revealing who we really are behind the masks that we wear takes a lot of courage. I say we do it together.
With mucho a latte of love and respect,