What Were You Born To Do? (And Other Intimidating Questions)

One of my favorite questions to ask my clients is, “What were you born to do?”

Much more often than not, the response is an un-confident, mumbled statement that instantly reveals confusion and/or insecurities. I ask this question, not to make others uncomfortable, but to get to a tender spot right off the bat so we can identify areas that need a jump start, by looking at the big picture.

So, let me ask you – What were you born to do?

  • Do you have a vague recollection of your unique talents, skills, and abilities?
  • Do you believe that your life has a special purpose that only you can fulfill?
  • Do you ever feel that your life is a mystery that you haven’t yet solved?
  • Do you feel compelled to do something grand and meaningful with your life?
  • How will you know when you’ve discovered what that is?
  • Are you compelled to make a difference? To live up to your potential?
  • What are you doing about it?

These questions aren’t simple or easy for most people to answer. In fact, my experience has shown me that when we start talking about a person’s purpose in life, anxiety reveals its ugly head.

  • Are you afraid you’ll pick the wrong path? That somehow you’ll miss your calling?
  • Do you feel pressure to figure it out because, according to your inner critic, “you should have figured it out by now”?
Could you use some guidance to assist you in solving the mystery of your own life’s purpose?

If the answer is yes, you are in the perfect spot at the perfect time… because guidance and insight is exactly what you’re going to receive today!

To find your answers to questions like, “What were you born to do?”, YOU are the only person who can definitively recognize and step into that role. I know, I know – it would be much easier if you could just go see someone, have them read your fortune, and tell you that your life path is to [insert some great advice].

HOWEVER, if you, yourself, do not do the soul searching that is required, then you will not recognize the wealth of potential that exists within you. You will be relying on what other people have said to you. You will be giving your power away and you may have set yourself up for a constant stream of doubt to be playing on your inner soundtrack:

“So-and-so told me that I should be doing this… but what if he/she is wrong?”

Notice how it feels to say, “I am amazing” vs. “That other person says I’m amazing”. We are seeking the power inherent in the first statement.

That being said, in your own quest to find the answers to your questions, I do recommend seeking out trustworthy counselors, friends, and guides who will offer you unbiased, objective insight with your best and highest good as their sole motivation. Please don’t rely on other people’s assessment of your own life, rather, use the information to put together your own stash of evidence – the proof that you need to convince yourself that you are, indeed, amazing.

‘This Is What I Was Born To Do’ Evidence Box

Gather all the information you’ve ever heard, read, felt, or imagined about who you are, why you are here, and what you were born to do.

Compile it in a journal, a shoe box, a binder – something that works for you.

Your goal with this step is to create a tangible source that you can refer back to during times of self doubt and insecurity, to remind you that you are on the right track. You’ll begin to see patterns emerge, information and clues will repeat themselves, and you will undoubtedly start to recognize your personal potential.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What did you want to be when you grew up?
  • What have other people (whom you trust) consistently remarked about you? Do you light up a room, make people laugh, bring comfort? Do solutions to problems come easy to you?
  • What makes your heart sing? What do you get lost in – an activity or pursuit that puts you in a time warp – you find yourself excited and compelled to do more, learn more or you have an insatiable thirst for more?
  • If all of your worldly needs were met, and you had no financial concerns, whatsoever – what would you do with your time? What desires come bubbling up for you?
  • How would you make a difference in your family, your community, throughout the world?

Look at your Soul Map

When you were born, the energy in the cosmos was aligned in an intricate pattern that is recorded within you. As you grow and experience life, this energy continues to support you to reach your highest potential in life. You were born with inherent strengths and weaknesses, and in the course of overcoming these weaknesses and embracing your strengths, your life will align with your mission here on earth.

This information is encoded in your natal chart, and whether you have experience with Astrology or not, I highly recommend an in-depth and intuitive look at your Soul Map to assist you in finding important clues to what you were born to do.


Meditate. Listen. Absorb. Trust.

When you find yourself wrestling with your inner critic over whether your hunches about your own potential are true or not, remember it is your ego trying to convince you to play small.

What does it look like when you find the answer?

A sense of confidence, renewed enthusiasm for life, commitment to make a difference.

I’ve taken these steps, dedicated several years to uncovering my own mystery. And this is my answer to the question:

I was born to write. Born to share a message from as many platforms as I can reach, as loudly as I can. My message is one of authenticity and learning to trust the self. I am here to help others recognize their own Divinity, to stop giving away their power.

What do you think? Am I doing it?

Challenge: Ponder what you feel you were born to do. Consider your life’s purpose and what you might need to do in order to align with that path. Embrace your unique amazingness.


  1. Answer each of the questions – you may want to start a journal or a blog to reflect on your journey.
  2. Share your thoughts with us! (Leave a comment, make a post in the Facebook Group, or even shout out on Twitter!)
  3. Create your Evidence Box – gather up the proof you need to remind yourself of your potential.

I look forward to hearing your answers to this week’s discussion questions on the topic of life’s purpose. 

With mucho a latte of love and respect,

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