In order to escape stagnation and move forward, it is vital to know what is keeping you from making progress toward a better life.
Take the QUIZ to pinpoint exactly why you are stuck.
Overwhelmingly, the quiz nails down the mentality of your primary area of stagnation. Buuuuut, like all subjective questionnaires, it doesn’t take into account complexity in personality and situation.
You may have scored barely higher in a negative mindset than you did on storytelling, but the quiz will still label you as The Doubter. It’s worthwhile to read over the description for each of the different quiz results to see what feels familiar to you.
I recommend determining your primary and secondary characteristics so that you can better understand what holds you back.
For example, I happen to be a People Pleaser who procrastinates. I’m growing out of the need to people please, and because I know that procrastinating causes me overwhelm and keeps me trapped in my current state rather than working toward my goals… I am extra motivated to offset both of those tendencies.
That’s how self awareness and personal development work after all, right?
Become more aware of yourself, identify areas of improvement, and then take action to improve. Voila!
Determine Why You Are Stuck
Before we dive into each of the quiz results groups, I also want to mention that a scant few of you will have received inconclusive results. This can happen for a variety of reasons, but the solution is to either have someone who knows you very well help you take the quiz… or read over this list to see which two categories fit you the best.
You are stuck in BUSY-NESS. You wear your busy-ness as a badge of honor as if the quality of your life is validated by how much time you don’t have.
Your energy is scattered, spread too thin, and you are EXHAUSTED from the current state of your life.
You don’t know how to prioritize your own desires, so you put everything else first – other people’s needs, the roles you are expected to fulfill – and your non-stop busy life has you TRAPPED in a state of stagnation.
Part of your problem – a big part, in fact – is that you have spent so much time putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own, that you don’t actually remember what your needs and wants are.
The truth is, if you aren’t there yet, you’ll eventually arrive at a place where you don’t have anything left to give. You might even start resenting the expectations you’re supposed to meet.
If I could give you one gift, it would be PERMISSION to explore who you really are and what you really want when you aren’t so damn busy.
You are stuck in INACTION. You are a procrastinator and your inaction leads to overwhelm.
You’ve got an “All or Nothing” mentality, so you very often choose nothing. And then beat yourself up about it.
You struggle with lack of motivation, discipline, and consistency and it keeps you TRAPPED in a state of stagnation.
Part of your problem – a big part, in fact – is that you experience depression more often than most people do, and that is a difficult place from which to be proactive. When you get stuck in apathy, lethargy, inaction, you set up a negative feedback loop that keeps you stuck in “blah”.
The truth is, you might know exactly what you should do, you just don’t do it.
If I could give you one gift, it would be MOTIVATION to find what drives you to take action.
You are stuck in a NEGATIVE mindset.
Yep, you are a pessimist! Your first reaction to most situations is to imagine the worst possible outcome. You then look for evidence to prove your conclusions true.
You may be prone to anxiety, self-doubt, uncertainty, and indecision. You often self-sabotage and it’s kicking your ass, keeping you TRAPPED in a state of stagnation.
Part of your problem – a big part, in fact – is that you doubt whether good things are coming your way. You often get started in a positive direction, but once you face an obstacle, you are easily knocked off your path.
The truth is, your mindset focuses more on what there is to bitch about than on solutions and positive outcomes.
If I could give you one gift, it would be EMPOWERMENT to discover that you are a powerful being with the ability to influence all of the outcomes in your life. This requires self-awareness and the willingness to change your mindset.
You are stuck in your ATTACHMENT TO THE PAST.
You have a story. Perhaps you’ve suffered painful emotional or physical trauma. Maybe it’s abuse, neglect, betrayal, loss… your identity is based on what happened to you.
You don’t know how to let it go, in fact you might not be sure who you are or what life looks like without that cross to carry.
You tell your story to anyone who will listen to you, as you want them to understand where you’ve been and why you are the way you are. Your unwillingness to let go, to give or receive forgiveness, is keeping you TRAPPED in a state of stagnation.
Part of your problem – a big part, in fact – is that you genuinely don’t know what life looks like if you aren’t wearying your “story” as a badge of honor. Maybe you feel like you missed your chance, or your best opportunities were taken from you.
The truth is, you are spinning in your own shit. Now, that may seem harsh, especially if you feel as though you are a victim in the story of your life. You have to believe me, it is possible to leave the past behind.
If I could give you one gift, it would be HOPE that you can release your past to embrace the future.
The People Pleaser
You are stuck in PEOPLE PLEASING.
You often feel trapped – by doubts, insecurities, old beliefs, other people’s expectations… and especially the fear of disappointing others.
You are afraid of disappointing your friends & family. This fear keeps you from doing what makes you happy, saying how you really think & feel… and from becoming the person you know in your heart you are meant to be.
You are afraid of losing love and approval and it keeps you TRAPPED in a state of stagnation.
Part of your problem – a big part, in fact – is that you have spent so much time shushing your own inner voice as you cater to external opinions and expectations, that you don’t recognize your innate guidance when it tries to help you navigate your life. If you continue to operate from an external source of direction, you will continue to give your power away.
The truth is, You are a chameleon – constantly changing to fit in… people only know the part of you that you show them, and you only show them what you think they will like.
If I could give you one gift, it would be PERMISSION (and courage) to explore who you really are when you aren’t pretending to be what everyone else expects to see.
You are stuck in UNWORTHINESS. Life hasn’t been kind to you. You feel beaten down, broken, damaged, FRAGILE. You’ve forgotten the important truth that you are a spark of Divinity.
You struggle with low self-esteem. You’re often plagued with thoughts that “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve…”.
You often respond to life with the mentality and energy of a “victim” and it’s kicking your ass, keeping you TRAPPED in a state of stagnation.
Part of your problem – a big part, in fact – is that you have given your power away and you don’t know how to take it back. You catch glimpses of a better situation, but don’t have sustained energy, belief, or confidence to make it happen.
The truth is, your current mindset focuses more on your perceived misfortune than on solutions and positive outcomes.
If I could give you one gift, it would be EMPOWERMENT (and hope) to discover that you are a magnificent, divine, powerful being with the ability to influence all of the outcomes in your life. This requires self-awareness and the willingness to change your mindset.
So, were you able to recognize yourself in one or more of these categories? Did you take the quiz to nail down your results?
Now that you know where you get stuck, what will you do to start making improvements?
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