They say you can tell a lot about a person by the company they keep. In fact, there are those who would go so far as to say that you embody the characteristics and traits of the five people with whom you spend the most time.
Now, isn’t THAT interesting?
When I first read this concept, I paused to consider where I spend the majority of my time… and which people are on my top five list. According to this theory, assuming I’m an average of these five people, I am grateful for their association!
But, if you had asked me to participate in this exercise several years ago, I might not have felt this sense of satisfaction.
I found myself in a group of friends who were intellectually brilliant, clever, and in hindsight, condescending and arrogant. We spent our social time laughing hysterically while making sarcastic quips that typically came at someone else’s expense. Part of me held these friends in high esteem because of their keen sense of humor, yet, at the end of every evening, I started to feel dull and empty.
While we sat in our place of snarky judgment, snickering at the missteps of others, my soul grew weary of the non-stop negativity. For anyone on the outside looking in, I was an integral part of the critical arrogance founded upon self-appointed academic supremacy… and somehow realized that I would be defined and categorized by the company I kept.
This bothered me.
I eventually distanced myself from the group – without any pomp or circumstance, mind you… just simply ‘vibrated’ away.
I longed to be surrounded by people who would uplift the evening, make it easier to be the best version of my self, and felt compelled to make a difference in the world. Fast forward several years, and I am, indeed surrounded by the kind of people who make me very proud to call them my friends.
How about you? Do you spend your time with people who inspire you to be a better version of yourself? Do they encourage and support you? Are you free to express yourself without fear of judgment? Do you feel safe in presenting yourself with authenticity and transparency?
I look forward to a discussion on the company you keep. Leave a comment below!